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An interview with fiXE magazine
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Dominatrix Of The Week Lady Wednesday
by Cary
How did you become interested in fetish/BDSM?
At the age of 18 I started go-go dancing at the Boston area's most extreme fetish night at club Manray, called VI, later to be renamed Sin-O-Matic once moved to club Machine. I took 6mo to tour through Europe, and upon my return was asked to start performing at the monthly Fetish event. I was trained for stage by a switch, but had little practical training until I turned 22 and wanted to learn more about discipline and domination. I had been inspired to write a business plan for a dungeon and was looking at commercial spaces in Maryland at the time of my initial "training", which was mostly reading memoirs, exploring discipline and pain with vanilla partners, and asking some older domme friends questions on demeanor and safety in a pro environment.
And how did you transition from an interest to it being a profession?
The same month interest in owning and operating a dungeon quickly dissipated due to unstable funding options, I happened upon my first client as a pro-domme. Within a moth I had moved to New York. At first a came out to many nightlife events, but as I started producing non-kink parties of my own, simultaneously with starting to session out of Rapture, I found myself much less available and enthused to be out, playing. I left rapture for yet another boring vanilla job just months before they were forced to close, but continued to see new clients independently.
About a year after going indie, I was asked to head a video production start-up company as the creative director. I pulled most of my advertising as a pro domme within a few months to keep the phone calls to a minimum, so I could concentrate my energies on the company. I kept many of my regulars, save for the naughty ones. I now spend a majority of my time working, in some way, on the betterment of the production company which is now hosted at KisforKink.com.
What can someone seeing you as a Pro Domme for the first time expect?
I'm not going to pretend like it's easy to get a hold of me these days. If you call, and I don't have your number in my phone, I will most likely ignore the call. Sadly, no one leaves voice messages these days and I do not make unsolicited outgoing calls. Email has been the easiest for me these days; I sooner accommodate extensiveness/multiple hour sessions but only if they interest me greatly. All my psycho analysis and probing is done over the phone or email while setting up details for the session, so there is not much discussion once my subject has arrived, only dictation followed by a sweet and slow breakdown. Submissive or fetishist, the initial portion of the session always leaves them putty in my hands, the rest of the session is used to sculpt them into shapes I see fit.
What kinds of people book sessions with you?
The demographic has ranged from 22 to 72, from blue collar to CEO, quite a few of whom I still work with in videos, or keep in touch with as friends.
What are your specialties?
Towards the last 6 months taking on new clients, I started seeing a pattern increasing in foot fetishists, cross dressers who desired forced feminization and sissies looking for freedom and discipline. Those, through no conscious efforts of my own, became my specialties, say some readers of cross-dressing forums.
What kinds of equipment do you use?
On occasion I use hemp rope and my Swarovski encrusted riding crop. Despite having at least ten times the equipment I could use on any one human before exhausting myself, I frequently prefer to use soley my mind.
Do you enjoy fetishism/BDSM play in your personal life, and if so what are you into?
Yes. I am a switch in my personal life; although I will not divulge which activity I enjoy as a top or a bottom, I will say that I enjoy the following equally: shibari, foot worship, nipple torture, biting, spanking, caning, objectification and anal play.
What advice would you have for someone just staring out in the fetish scene?
Same as my life advice: Follow your heart, keep your head and know your soul.
Do you think fetish is becoming part of the mainstream culture?
Despite some people's stigma against elevating kink to societal norms, even through film and art, it is exactly what I am working towards with my company [kisforkink.com]. I want corporate censorship to be revisited in order to re-introduce sexuality, kink and tension to the masses through popular and corporately backed channels of media distribution.
What kind of music do you like?
Dubstep, grime, glitch, two-step and disco electro. Cold and dark wave. Some black and melodic death metal, the older stuff.
What do you like to do for fun?
Performance art. Also, I love dancing. Ballroom, pole and the sort you do when you're alone and "Groove Is In The Heart" comes on the alternative lifestyle itunes radio channel.
